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UPCOMING CLASSES & EVENTS

HAPPY FULL MOON FRIENDS-chakras2

Summer is officially in full swing & the full moon is upon us.

Of course, with the sun in Cancer and the full moon in Capricorn, it’s a great time to harmonize in order to create ‘balance’ & flow.

Besides sharing Yoga and Private Reiki, for the last quarter I’ve taken a bit of a hiatus in order to ground down and
re-connect to my Sacred Center.

Some of the ways I’ve been connecting to my heart light include, dance- which is PURE medicine for the Soul. I’ve also been frequenting a boat load of Kirtans and I’ve even taken up the drums!

Nothing like movement and music to get you into the flow~

If you haven’t already, I want to encourage you to carve out some much needed, ‘me time’ for yourself to do what inspires you, lights you up and nourishes your Soul.

AND…

Whatever you do, don’t forget to give yourself permission to PLAY.

As always, there are plenty of ways to connect…

Traveling to Denver, want to join me for a little Yoga?

Check out my Yoga schedule here

Upcoming Workshops & Events

Saturday 7/25 (2pm-4pm): Radical Reboot @ Inspire Life Studio Denver, Colorado

*Reiki I Level I Immersion & Yoga NYC TBA*

Tuesday 9/1 (6pm-7pm): Discovering Your Inner Radiance @ Burning Man: Camp Contact Black Rock City, Nevada

Thursday 9/3 (6pm-8:30pm): Radical Reboot @ Burning Man: Camp Contact Black Rock City, Nevada

Saturday 9/26 & 10/3 (2pm-4pm): Reiki Level I Immersion @ Inspire Life Studio Denver, Colorado * To Register Click Here

**For Private Reiki or Yoga Therapy Email Me: info@theradiantwell.com

Looking forward to connecting with you!

With Love,

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The Path of the Heart

The path of the heart is winding

A helix of infinite wisdom

Revealing itself through sweet somatic whispers

Tend to these enigmatic murmurs

Receive the transmission of heart wisdom

Let it shatter all of your hopes and dreams

Including all of the beliefs of what you thought was possible

Until all that’s left is the sacred ground beneath your feet

Know that you are not broken

Simply behold the rugged landscape before you

Feel your precious heart beating inside your chest

And consider the sanctity of this moment

Embracing ALL that IS.

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Vulnerability = Strength

Feeling unloved and not accepted as a child created a deep sense of shame and unworthiness within me. As a result, I believed vulnerability was a weakness and I often isolated myself from others as a means of protection. I’ll go out on a limb and say perhaps some of you struggle with being vulnerable as well. Let’s face it being vulnerable isn’t easy and our culture perpetuates the idea that vulnerability is a sign of weakness. In all actuality however, vulnerability should be considered a strength.

Over the last few years I have done a lot of deep inner work. What I have come to grips with is that I am and always will be- a person who wears my heart on my sleeve. In all honesty, this kind of vulnerability keeps me grounded and rooted in my heart.  Although others may view my vulnerability as weak or naive, I know being centered in my heart is what enables me to empathize and connect with others in a deep- meaningful way.  For that I am grateful.

Don’t get me wrong, I know it’s not always easy to occupy a space of complete openness. In fact, there are times when I struggle and have to remind myself that being vulnerable is a strength. When we interact with others who don’t occupy the same space of openness, compassion, and understanding that we do, it can be a challenge to express how we feel and communicate our needs. However, that’s when we need to muster up the courage and be vulnerable anyway.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

Feeling safe enough to be vulnerable is key to building connections.  When others see us speak our truth, they feel compelled to speak theirs.  However, it does require courage!

HOW DO WE BUILD CONNECTIONS

First, we have to acknowledge that feeling vulnerable is universal. There isn’t a person I know who hasn’t had an experience where they felt humiliated, shut down or completely abandoned as a result of being vulnerable. While it can sometimes be painfully difficult, the truth is- in order to build connections we have to outstretch ourselves and allow ourselves to be vulnerable.

Brené Brown; a researcher who has studied human connection and our ability to empathize, belong, and love says, “in order to facilitate connection we have to be excruciatingly vulnerable.” She also says that when we numb our vulnerability, “we numb joy, gratitude, and happiness.” Brown’s research concludes three commonalities “wholehearted” individuals who are NOT afraid to be vulnerable share. These commonalities include: courage, compassion, and connection. Her research revals those who had courage to be imperfect, compassion to be kind to themselves first and then to others were able to build authentic connections. She also noted that these individuals had a strong sense of worthiness and belonging which enabled them to fully embrace vulnerability.

YOU ARE WORTHY- WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY DOES MATTER

Without a strong sense of worthiness and belonging, seeing vulnerability as a strength does seem like a farfetched idea. From personal experience I acknowledge times in my life when a lack of self worth created circumstances where I felt like I didn’t belong. For some of us, it takes a lot of patience, inner work, and healing to strengthen our sense of worthiness and belonging. If you’ve ever had an experience that created feelings of guilt or shame, you know it takes time to accept and affirm that you are worthy…that what you have to say does matter.

Continually re-affirming your own value and self worth is essential; as is deepening your sense of belonging. The only way to deepen that sense of belonging is to let go of what others think, be authentic, and allow yourself to be seen. Of course there is never a guarantee you won’t be let down, or be pushed outside of your comfort zone but eventually you will begin to see vulnerability not as a weakness but a tremendous strength.

With love & light,

Namaste
Alana

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SURRENDER EXPECTATIONS

Recently a good friend and I reconnected after not corresponding for the last few years. This reconnection came on the heels of paying attention to a number of synchronicities that kept reminding me to reach out to inquire how my friend was doing, despite the reasons why we stopped talking in the first place.

The truth is as human beings we often let our emotions get the best of us. We allow our egos to run the show. As a result, we lose out on a lot of lot of amazing reationships/friendships that nourish us and inspire us to be better people. Rather than be vulnerable and deal with the issues with courage and honesty; we succumb to our ego and all the emotions that arise. This kind of recourse creates a disconnect within us that reinforces the belief that it’s safer to hide our feelings, rather than face and discuss the issues which will undoubtedly arise in any friendship or relationship.

After chatting with my friend about the reasons why we lost touch and re-visiting the details of what transpired; we candidly discussed our feelings, what we were going through in our lives at the time and how we allowed our emotions and circumstances of our lives to get in the way of what is most important- our friendship.

Shifting Our Perspective

What it all boils down to is a shift in our perspective. When we shift our perspective we learn the importance of developing meaningful connections with others. This shift helps us understand why it’s important to maintain honesty; to let go of our expectations, and to embrace uncertainty.

For most of my adolescence and young adult life I, like most people learned to be a people pleaser. I had a distorted view of how relationships worked. Sometimes I invested in my relationships/friendships much to the detriment of my own values, feelings and sense of self worth. It was uncomfortable for me to deal with the uncertainty of how a friend or loved one would react if I didn’t meet their expectations and be who they wanted me to be.

As a quintessential people pleaser, I believed that in order for people to like me I had to make them happy. So there’s no surprise when I tell you, I developed an unrealistic set of expectations of others and myself. And whenever those individuals didn’t meet my expectations a wall of resentment grew until I couldn’t tolerate them or how I felt. Inevitably I ended up sabotaging those relationships and completely severing my ties with those individuals.

As I continue to grow, I have come to realize I’m not in charge of anyone’s happiness and I’m not supposed to be anyone other than who I am. More importantly I am not responsible for reactions others have when I speak my truth with honesty and love. Through a number of tough lessons and friendships lost, I now know no matter how much we try to control and manipulate a situation it doesn’t mean things are going to end up the way we imagine or expect them to. Hence, the importance of surrendering expectations and learning to embrace uncertainty.

Surrender Expectations

When we place expectations on ourselves and others, we set ourselves up for failure and disappointment. Learning to surrender our expectations is invaluable because it leaves room for all parties involved to be authentically themselves! Imagine the freedom to express and be authentically YOU. Imagine the gift of unconditional love and support you could give others by letting them express themselves and be authentically who they are. Now that is some serious LOVE!

Embracing Uncertainty

The fact of the matter is everything in life is uncertain, including how others will react when we openly and honestly express how we feel. Sure it’s almost certain the sun will rise and set each day, the moon and stars will come out each night, and our bodies are magnificent vehicles which have the capacity to support us if we nourish them with love and care. But amid these “certainties”, on the flip side remains so much uncertainty and in every facet of our lives.

I speak of uncertainty a lot in my posts because for a lot of people embracing uncertainty is a hard pill to swallow. I get it! But when you think about it, everything in life involves a degree of uncertainty. EVERYTHING. However, most of us have become so conditioned living with a manufactured sense of comfort and security, we automatically equate that to certainty. In all actuality the ball can drop at any time in our lives; shaking up our sense of comfort and security. Yet we cling to what is comfortable because we love to bank on certainty.

As I embrace uncertainty more and more, it makes me realize the importance of being present and grateful for everything I have. Moreover, I am able to set my expectations aside to honor and nurture relationships with people I care about in a much deeper and loving way. Vincent van Gogh once said, “for my part I know nothing with any certainty, but the sight of the stars makes me dream.” This statement alone reinforces within me the belief that everything in life is precious and that the only thing we can be certain of in this lifetime is that one day it will all go away. Contemplating the impermanence of all things allows me to embrace and honor everything a great deal more, including my relationship, my friendships, speaking my truth, and taking risks on behalf of my dreams.

By learning to invest more of your time and energy into loving yourself and nurturing your inner Spirit, it fills you up with a kind of joy that spills over into all areas of your life, including your friendships and relationships. When this happens you can almost guarantee much of your expectations and need to please others naturally falls away. The best part is when you embrace uncertainty, you relinquish the need to control situations, outcomes, and reactions of others. Above all else, you deepen your level of connection with others in an honest, loving, and authentic way.

So are you a people pleaser? Do you put the feelings and needs of others in front of your own? Do you place unrealistic expectations on others, as well as yourself? How is that serving you? Can you see the importance of surrendering all expectations and accept others for who they are, rather than who you want them to be? More importantly, can you love and accept who you are? Finally can you begin to embrace uncertainty and regard uncertainty as an essential component to creating a space of possibility in which your friendships, relationships, and dreams have the freedom to flourish? I’d love to hear from you. Feel free to drop me a line.

With Love & Light,

Namaste
Alana

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Choose Happiness

Let me ask you a question. What if you knew that the secret art of inviting happiness into your life simply meant that all you had to do was choose happiness over anger, gratitude over worry, devote yourself to your work and be kind to people. Would you choose happiness over anger? Would you choose gratitude over worry? Would you devote yourself to your work and would you be kind to others?

There is a beautiful set of Reiki ideals that have been passed down through Reiki tradition that states:

The secret art of inviting happiness
The miraculous medicine of all diseases
Just for today, do not be angry
Do not worry and be filled with gratitude
Devote yourself to your work and be kind to people

Every time I read these ideals I am reminded that I have a choice to invite happiness in and the simple fact of the matter is everyone of us has a choice to invite happiness into our lives.

I want you to think about a day when you were flying high, an awesomely perfect-Divine day when you were floating on cloud 9. I bet there wasn’t a single solitary soul, or anything that could bring you down. What was it about this particularly juicy day that enabled you to dwell in a space of pure happiness and joy? I’ll give you a hint- YOU.

That’s right, YOU choose the mental, physical, and emotional space you want to dwell in and you do it all the time. Now don’t get me wrong, I realize there are circumstances in our lives that are beyond our control. Circumstances that challenge our faith and perseverance. I mean how could you feel compelled to choose happiness in a moment of pain, loss or suffering? I get it! But the truth is my friend, even in our darkest hours, in the most difficult and challenging periods of our lives, we have a choice about how we want to feel.

Now I’m not suggesting that you in-authentically put on a happy face if you’ve just lost a loved one, or you’re facing some sort of hardship in your life. I realize it takes time to grieve over loss; time to move through difficult periods in life. What I am suggesting however is that you simply start to recognize that you have the ability to choose how you want to feel moment by moment. You have the choice to invite feelings into your heart space and mind space that are conducive to your own health and well being. It is by consciously recognizing the choices you have that will enable you to see just how Divinely magnificent and powerful you are as a human being to master the art of inviting happiness into your life and creating a life of true meaning and joy.

With Love & Light,

Namaste
Alana

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