“Vulnerability is our most accurate measure of courage.” Brene Brown
In my experience, there are two things that happen when I put vulnerability into action. First, the experience of vulnerability as my thoughts, i.e., “What will she think when I tell her how I really feel… What will she do if I tell her the truth…”
Then there is the physical response where my palms actually start to sweat and anxiety sets in.
In these moments when I need to muster up the courage to express what I’m feeling without guilt or shame, my throat usually feels constricted and my heart feels like it’s about to implode.
Yep, being vulnerable isn’t easy but not allowing myself to be vulnerable- that’s downright painful.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, whenever we’re not in alignment with who we are and with what we feel is in our heart, it’s self-betrayal of the highest degree.
How Do We Begin to Find the Courage to be Vulnerable
1. Tell on Ourselves
Speaking our truth is empowering. When we speak our truth, we surrender the need for perfection and give ourselves permission to be exactly who we are without fear of judgment.Talk about a release of guilt and shame.
2. Own Our Stuff
One of the most important things we can do is to stop pointing the finger and placing the blame. Instead, we need to own our stuff by taking responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, actions and deeds.
3. Begin to See Vulnerability as a Strength
The moment we decide to see vulnerability as a strength, rather than a weakness- two things happen: We begin to release the guilt and shame that keeps us feeling small and we inspire others to live courageously and in the words of Brene Brown, “Dare Greatly”.
How can you begin to shift the notion that vulnerability is a weakness and begin to see vulnerability as one of your greatest strengths?
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With Love & Light,