Today’s blog comes on the heels of a soul to soul I had with a friend of mine who never ceases to light a creative fire in me and always delivers a timely message my soul needs to hear. Thank you my friend.
Getting Down to the Heart of the Matter
I have spent most of my life weighing pros and cons and trying to control outcomes. Sound familiar?
Well, if you’re like me, you know just how much energy is wasted trying to control anything, especially outcomes! And let’s face it, when you end up with an outcome you didn’t bargain for it’s downright disappointing.
Of course, there are those magical moments when the outcome you poured your heart and soul into, manifests. The beauty of these miraculous moments is they often end up being ten times greater than what you could have ever imagined or even thought possible.
Now I will admit, letting go of the need to control an outcome is a lot easier said than done. Truth be told, I’m really good at maintaining a sense of control and my inner perfectionist- well, it specializes in strategizing outcomes.
But let’s be real …I can control, manipulate, plan, and strategize all I want- things won’t always go the way I plan them to.
So what’s all the hype about surrendering outcomes?
When we surrender and let go of the need to control outcomes, it leaves room for freedom, flexibility, spontaneity and (drum roll)…possibility.
You see, if we don’t have the freedom to express ourselves and be who we really are, we betray ourselves and that never feels good.
Furthermore, when we don’t exercise flexibility in life, we become so rigid that we eventually shut down.
Instead of enjoying the spontaneity of life, our life experience becomes monotonous, mundane, and motionless. I don’t know about you but there is nothing worse than being stagnant or stuck- it limits your true potential and cuts you off from the endless possibilities life has to offer.
The Power of Letting Go
Stop for a moment and think of a situation or circumstance in your life right now where you feel the need to control the outcome.
How much energy have you expended, calculating and analyzing every move related to your ideal outcome?
Think about how exhausting it is to try to manipulate people, things, or circumstances in order to experience your desired outcome even though it’s not guaranteed.
And keep it real, how much time have you spent fantasizing about some future moment when the desired outcome will lend itself to you finding true love, fulfillment, inner peace or happiness?
Can you see how the circumstance or outcome you’re trying to control, is the very thing that is keeping you from being who you are and experiencing all that life has to offer you right now?
Life isn’t about the destination, it’s about the journey- the lived experience from day to day and moment to moment.
What would it mean for you to surrender the outcome and be present to the experience itself?
And can you give yourself permission to simply let go, trust and have faith in knowing that the Universe has your back?
As always I would love to hear from you.
With Love & Light,